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I used to be a Yes Girl

I used to be a “Yes Girl”.

The past few weeks I’ve been seriously intentional with the work the Lord placed on my heart.  I’ve been focused and working behind the scenes to help other women do the same thing in this free e-course that’s focused on time stewardship.

Time stewardship means we evaluate our priorities and be intentional with our time so that we can live like we are God’s handiwork and do the good things He’s appointed for us to do. (Ephesians 2:10)

The reality is this.  For us to be able to say, “Yes, Lord. Here am I. Send me!” (Isaiah 6:8), we have to say no to other things.  We have to truly evaluate and establish our priorities.

I used to be a “Yes girl.”  I said, “yes” to way too many requests.  And in turn, I became overwhelmed, stressed out, and resentful that I didn’t have enough time to serve the way I truly was called.  I didn’t understand the value of establishing priorities to be a good steward of my time.

We are not meant to do it all.

I’ve seen on social media so many moms and women falling prey to the #hustle and the stop at nothing mantra to obtain their goals.

And I must be honest, I used to be one of them. And the reality is that the temptation for this kind of pace is always before me.

I’ve written about Creating a Purposeful Pause and how God laid conviction on me over this. I was not a good steward of my time. I was letting the Enemy tempt me out of peace with the promise for “more”.  {More of what, I’m still not sure.}

I also fall prey to forgetting about “Seasons of Life”.  Some seasons are busier than others.  Some seasons require different time engagements and more obligations.  When we’ve established our priorities, we can encounter these seasons with focus instead of overwhelm.  We understand that the season is temporary, not long term.

{Side note: this happens to me every year at the end of school.  I struggle to remember why I can’t “get it all done”.  Once I realize it is “just the season” and I’m still aligned with my priorities, I can breathe easier, stress less, and realize that there is an end to the “madness” that happens.}

Speaking of seasons... right now, I happen to be living abundantly while in a season of “flat broke”.  (Because I know that sometimes we have done all that we can “to throw off all that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles” and we are still flat broke.  We can “fix our eyes on Jesus” and the finances have yet to change.)  And when we know our priorities we can handle each season as it comes, including seasons of being “flat broke”.

READ: How to Live in Abundance when You’re Flat Broke right here.

Establishing priorities means we know what we can say “YES!” to in each season without falling prey to insanity, frustration, and overwhelm.

Know Your Priorities

To truly honor the Lord with our time we must know our priorities and set fierce boundaries around these.  However, friend, this is not a “stop at nothing until you reach the goal” mindset.  I was just sharing with a few ladies in my accountability group that we can have a firm and gentle no and a fierce and bold, resounding yes.  And we can “crush goals” without “crushing people”.

In order to have a gentle, but firm “no” and a bold, resounding “yes”, we must establish and know our priorities.

Today I want to challenge you to abandon the idea that you must do it all.

God created you for a specific purpose.  He doesn’t expect you to do it all. But, He does want us to honor Him in the purpose that He’s given to us.  He does want us to be “ALL IN” for His purpose.  To do this, our priorities must be grounded in Him and His purpose for our lives.

My priorities look like this:

1.) Spiritual Life and Self-Care

2.) Family + Home

3.) Ministry (blogging, e-courses, and teaching)

4.) Other acts of service

1.) Spiritual Life and Self-Care

While I highly doubt anyone would disagree with spiritual life being a top priority, some might disagree with my self-care being a part of this. That’s okay with me. I know that I cannot pour from an empty cup. If I’m not in my best form, I cannot fully serve others in the other appointments God has placed in my life.  My self-care is not manicures and hair treatments.  My self-care is training my physical temple, eating healthy, and alone time with the Creator for growing my faith.

This “alone time”  includes:

  • Quiet time and constant fellowship with the Creator.
  • Affirming my identity in Christ.
  • Letting the Spirit lead and guide me so that I’m walking in obedience.
  • Journaling and meditating on God’s provisions and wonders
  • Deeply questioning the world through a Biblical lense.

I NEED alone time.  And this is NOT SELFISH.  Jesus often withdrew to refocus and restore.  And I must either find a way to do this early before anyone rises or to gently, but firmly tell my family that I need a “time-out” and lock myself away for 30 minutes.

It might mean I take an afternoon off.  It can mean (for me) I put the kids on the bus and drive home from school alone.  It could mean that I take a walk (or a nap) one afternoon.

But, I cannot state this enough: WE NEED to fill our cups from the life-giving words of the Creator and spend time in self-care before we can take care of anyone else.

2.) Family + Home

The second priority for me is our family and our home.  As a wife and a mother, I deeply want to meet the needs of my family.  I am appointed to these positions.  And when I’ve made my spiritual life and self care a top priority, I’ve found I can pour into the people closest to me without resentment and frustration.

I will confess that for years these top priorities were in reverse order.  I felt like my life was a living hell.  (Always honest.)  I was running on fumes.  And that resulted in angry outbursts, a few things being thrown, and ugly words that I cannot believe I would ever utter coming from my mouth!

Just this week, I’ve lost it multiple times.  After apologies and a few tears, I paused and stepped away from my family to spend a few minutes in reflection.  Here’s what I found: I missed my Morning Power Hour, I’ve been eating terribly, and workouts have been intermittent (to say it graciously).  My priorities have been out of order.

I’ve gone from WonderWoman to Green Hulk in 3 seconds flat.  (Yes, I’m well aware that one is DC and the other is Marvel.  But, I’m my own superhero so I can totally use this.)

I digress.

What do fierce boundaries around this priority look like?  It means:

It means that if my family needs me present that I am there.  I can pause writing on the blog, sharing in my accountability group, writing and answering emails, and working outside the home because I know my priorities.

I ask the question, “Does my family need me because I’ve not been present?” or “Have I made time for my family in a way that they know they are a priority?”

This also gives me the freedom to know when I’ve been present, poured into my family and home, I have the freedom to focus on the following priorities without guilt.  I can use ask with this phrase, “I understand that you think you might need me right now, but I’ve been with you for the last four hours. Is this something you can do alone right now? If not, will you please wait for a few minutes until I’m done with this task before I help you?”

While to some that may sound harsh, I can tell you that part of life is waiting.  My children know (because I’ve poured into them) that they are a priority, but they are not the ONLY thing I am devoted to.  They see me working for the Lord and ministering to others.  They see me writing for the Creator and building other women.  They see that we meet the needs of others.

3.) Ministry

Beautiful friend, our ministries look different.  We are appointed and called to serve others in very different ways.  And that is a beautiful thing.  As I’ve matured in my faith, I’ve begun to realize (again) that I’m not meant to do it all.  By knowing this appointment, I can set Christ-centered goals that build others for the Kingdom WITHOUT falling prey to the comparison game.

I understand that you have an appointment and so do I.  The comparison game is from the Enemy.  It is meant to divide us.  I think upon what Paul wrote to the early church in Romans 12 (emphasis mine).

For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you. For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with youra]”>[a]faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,b]”>[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.

KNOWING this passage, I can rest in my appointment and keep my priorities aligned with the mission that the Creator has placed in my life.  I can be unlabeled by the Enemy because I know who I am and how I’m called to serve you.

4.) Other Acts of Service

This is where all else falls in the priority list.  By evaluating and establishing priorities, I can determine if I have space for anything else that falls here.

Our lives and our priorities are different.  I’m not going to create a list for you.  For me, coffee dates fall here.  However, your coffee date might be a part of self-care.  It’s a standing appointment with your best friend and basically a weekly therapy session for you.  That’s awesome.  Do you, friend!

Another example might be playdates for your children.  They would fall here for me.  However, this might fit in your second or a top priority for you.  Go for it!

The point is this:  You know you. You know your family.  You know how you serve best.  You know what your calendar allows for.  Then, do that.

Real Life Applications

Learning to move at the Lord’s pace has been one of the biggest challenges of my life.  It requires me to surrender to Him fully and trust Him to hem me in and go before me.  It requires me to establish priorities and evaluate decisions based on those.   It requires me to check my calendar and check in with my spouse before I give a quick “YES!” to others.  Patience and boundaries, friend, begin to be established one decision at a time.  Our lives should reflect what we say is truly valuable to us.

Reality check: My life should reflect what I say are my priorities.

In Revolution (an upcoming e-course), I’m helping others establish their priorities and boundaries with some step-by-step guidance.  The focus of this course is all about Time Stewardship using Spirit-led strategies.

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2 Questions to Ask Yourself

Today, friend, I want to ask you just a few questions to get you thinking about setting priorities.  So let me step on my own toes today with these 2 questions about the pace and priorities you’re setting in your life:

1.) Who is setting the pace and the priorities for the work to be done? (God or You?)

2.) What phrase will you use for gentle, but firm “no” and a bold, resounding “yes”?


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4 Comments

  1. Ana N. says:

    SO much wisdom here. The Holy Spirit just poured unto your heart and it is so evident!
    Thank you for this gentle reminders.
    God bless

    1. Dauntless with Dignity says:

      Ana, thank you. There’s so much more coming in the next few weeks! I think He’s speaking this through me for so many exhausted women to KNOW His ways for them!

  2. A wonderful post that helps reset the busy woman, such as myself! 🙂 Thank you for your wisdom and insights. I love the point on Self-Care. I’m much like you…I love my alone time! Helps me be a better person to others, for which I also enjoy, but only when I’m at my best. 🙂

    1. Dauntless with Dignity says:

      We are kindred spirits! Thank you for sharing!

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